Even though Jonathan was pressured into losing his weight, he did not succumb to it. After long thinking, he told me he was happy being overweight. All this time he was trying to be someone else. People were forcing him to be someone else that he wasn’t...
One day I talked to him about how it feels to be treated badly and insulted all the time. Jonathan told me about how difficult it was for him to get a girl, since he is sort of fat. He wished he could turn all the fat he has into muscle so he could get a girl easily. He told me the fat-abuse gets really annoying, especially since he hears it at home as well. His parents were really strict and were always encouraging him to lose weight and exercise more. His parents thought that if he were thinner he would do better in school because no one would pick on him and no one would look at him with disgust. He told me he had been trying to work out more often and do more cardio, but there wasn’t much result from it. Since there wasn’t much result, he didn’t really care anymore, and developed an attitude every time his parents mentioned his weight or something associated with it.
In another conversation, he told me that his parents had forced him to go on a diet. He had to run at least 5 miles a week and had to watch exactly what he ate. He started to look at the calories in the food he was eating. Before he was forced onto a diet, he was able to just live freely, never checking calories. Giving up all the ice cream, chips, junk food, candy, and other goodies was one of the hardest things he had had to do in his entire life.
After a month, Jonathan lost some weight and his parents were proud of him. He was also proud of himself, and celebrated by eating what he ate before the diet. After that, he began to gain a little more weight because his parents became less strict on him about his weight. As a result, he gained the weight back twice as fast as he had lost it. The parents were disappointed in him. They were afraid that being overweight would cause many types of sicknesses and would be unhealthy for him. But Jonathan gave up on the diet and didn’t care anymore. He said there was nothing he could do. He wanted to stay at the weight he was at because it was pretty impossible for him to get really skinny like me.
Even though Jonathan was pressured into losing his weight, he did not succumb to it. After long thinking, he told me he was happy being overweight. All this time he was trying to be someone else. People were forcing him to be someone else that he wasn’t. He wanted to be accepted for who he is and not what he would become by losing that weight. He told me he loved the way he was and didn’t care if people didn’t like him. I still talk to Jonathan every now and then. He tells me that people in college are more accepting of him and his weight isn’t much of a big deal in his life now.
--Story of Jonathan, a 22 year-old Vietnamese American, relayed secondhand